Thats what I thought ....  next question that that raises though is because of the way I have set it up now , what is the correct format to put the file  "name /location" in the sitemap.xml file.
ie ....  
Bestbars.co.nz was the first domain the company registered and paid hosting for.  Then along come the other 4 domains "ezigrip.co.nz" , "ezigrip.co.uk" , "forddfs.co.nz" , "holdendfs.co.nz" and they were basically shoved intot eh same hosting space.
I have line spaced my default.asp page below so you can see how im redirecting the sites.
<%
Select Case Request.ServerVariables("HTTP_HOST")
Case "bestbars.co.nz", "[ External links are visible to forum administrators only ]"
destURL = "[ External links are visible to forum administrators only ]"
Case "ezigrip.co.nz", "[ External links are visible to forum administrators only ]"
destURL = "[ External links are visible to forum administrators only ]"
Case "forddfs.co.nz", "[ External links are visible to forum administrators only ]"
destURL = "[ External links are visible to forum administrators only ]"
Case "holdendfs.co.nz", "[ External links are visible to forum administrators only ]"
destURL = "[ External links are visible to forum administrators only ]"
Case "ezigrip.co.uk", "[ External links are visible to forum administrators only ]"
destURL = "[ External links are visible to forum administrators only ]"
End Select
%>
Now .... If i create a seperate sitemap.xml file in the appropriate websites folder  how would i code it... 
<url>
<loc>[ External links are visible to forum administrators only ]</loc>
</url>
or 
<url>
<loc>[ External links are visible to forum administrators only ]</loc>
</url>
I would prefer option 1, but if i enter that into a browser it doesnt actually work.  If you enter the second option the page shows up....  so I am guessing this is what I will need to do in my sitemap.xml file as well.     I would jsut prefer option 1 was all .... 
is there a way to hard dode that in the defaul.asp file that i missed ?
thanks in advance.